ETC (Take Space version)

Break Through The Fear That is Holding You Back From Deciding Whether to Stay or Leave Your Relationship So That You Can Finally Move Forward and Crate the Life You Desire Free From Abuse, Control and Manipulation

“Before the this program I was overwhelmed, my head was spinning, I was constantly hurt and in distress and had no clue why other than that my relationship was unhealthy. This program helped me to see the dynamics at play, know that I am not crazy or the one causing the chaos, know that yes I do play a part in the dance and to take responsibility for my own wellbeing. These are valuable life tools and essential when dealing with a covertly abusive partner because generic advice doesn’t work with them. I feel like I armed with the tools I need to move forward.” L.G

This program is for you if you're experiencing these Patterns in your relationship:

Everything is ‘fine’ only until you have an issue, express a need, or try to talk about something they did. Your spouse is loyal to a fault, does housework, grocery shops, cooks, and is relatively a kind person. (Note: Some of these men do not do housework and are lazy and unsupportive when they are at home, so it can be extreme in either direction)
You can’t express yourself without your spouse without him getting defensive. All issues you raise end up in a circular argument and he deflects the issue you brought up back onto you, somehow making it your fault
You’re not seen or heard -you feel invisible. There is no asking about your day, or how you are. No making special plans on his initiative, and you feel you have to beg for the smallest things. He doesn’t care about your ideas or desires and ignores your needs.
Nothing is ever resolved. There’s no sitting down and talking through issues calmly. You never feel heard, and it always ends up in a bad argument that leaves you feeling emotionally shattered. There is no resolution, and you feel like all the problems are your fault, he takes no ownership of his behavior.
He never listens to your concerns, acts busy, or doesn’t act interested in what you’re saying. Often the subject gets changed, or he deflects, minimizes, or belittles your feelings. He will also make you feel as if your ideas are stupid or will go on about how what you’re suggesting will never work.

There’s no affection, reciprocity, or deep emotional connection. The only affection you get is when they want sex, or you may want it because it’s the only time you get his attention. Many women develop an aversion to intimacy with their narcissistic spouse and don’t want to have sex at all. And, it is not uncommon for sexual abuse to be present in these relationships
You’re constantly walking on eggshells. You worry about his reactions, or what he will complain about next, what mood he will be in when he gets home, and what criticism you will receive next. You always feel on edge, waiting for something to bad happen, and dread when they are coming home. You brace yourself, even when he is not around.
He will never apologize. He has a ‘perfect persona’ and can do no wrong (according to him). You’ll hear: I’m sorry you feel that way” “I’m sorry that you think I did that”,” I said I’m sorry, what more do you want?”, or “I’m sorry that hurt your feelings”, I’m sorry if I did that”. These are all non-apologies!
When you express yourself, you’re met with sighs, eye-rolling, and then stonewalling. This is not an occasional thing, this is every single time. There’s never a good time to talk and you can never do it how they think you should.
You feel lonely and neglected in your relationship. It’s as if you don’t exist to him. There’s no connection and no emotional intimacy

How it Works

Once you register you’ll have instant access to the program education area where you can access the course.

You can dive it right away and get started!

You begin by doing the 30 Day Take Space relationship reset, and once you do this you will have the opportunity to deepen your growth, healing, and transformation over the additional modules in the program.

This reset is part relationship focused, but the basis is to focus on you, your wellness, health and life goals as you put your partner on a ‘shelf’ to work on yourself

The curriculum is self paced, so you can take the modules at your own pace.

Once you register you’ll receive an email from me with your next steps, instructions for how to get started, and strategies for how to set yourself up for success.

You’ll also receive weekly emails from me to help keep you on track!

My promise: If the only thing you do right now is dive in and commit to doing the work in this program, you will not recognize yourself by the end. In 30 days, if you complete and follow the process laid out step by step, your life will be transformed. Whether you stay or leave, you will not be the same. This program radically and permanently changes women’s lives in ways years of therapy never could!

Feedback And Testimonials From Students:

What You Get Immediate Access To:

The Step by Step Curriculum with videos, MP3 audios, PDF’s and journal exercises to help you go deeper into your truth and get clarity on what steps you need to take next
24/7 access to the course materials for 90 days
Weekly emails to keep you on tack and hold yourself accountable
6 bi-weekly live implementation calls on Zoom with Leanne based on the work you’ll be doing in the program, plus new teachings that aren’t already part of the curriculum (just like any class you would invest in, this will require planning and it is highly encouraged to attend these sessions. You get out of it what you put in to it)
Facebook student community to ask questions and get guidance from Leanne

BONUS: Get Your Sh*t Together Course

How to Save Money, Handle Expenses and Prepare Yourself to Leave ($97 value)

Ready for YOUR Big Awakening?

Here's a Quick Peek at What You'll Be Doing Inside:

How to identify the root cause issues of the ongoing conflict and chaos in your relationship and the specific behaviors that CONFIRM you are experiencing verbal abuse, emotional abuse
How to get off the emotional rollercoaster of fighting and getting back together that keep you in a vicious cycle of constant conflict, feeling shocked and hurt by your partner’s words, and making up that leaves you feeling exhausted and walking on eggshells
How to define and implement new boundaries to protect yourself and start standing up for what you deserve
How to identify your non-negotiable needs and ultimatums in your relationship to help you get clarity if this relationship is going to work long term. Own your ultimatums and stand firm in what you will no longer tolerate in your relationship.
How to protect yourself from manipulation and start standing up for yourself – learn how to set boundaries and use your voice to rebuild your self esteem NOT to change him
How to stop the HERO role behaviours that keep you feeling exhausted and frazzled in your daily life (HERO: Helping, Enabling, Rescuing, Overfunctioning)
How I determine if a woman is experiencing abuse WITHOUT hearing about her partner’s behaviours – discover if you are experiencing the NAE and how to get out of the trance of mental manipulation
How to take care of your emotional and mental health, release stress and anxiety, and sleep better with my toolkit of simple and pleasurable practices and tools you can use for daily maintenance as well as in the moment when you’re feeling overwhelmed
Create your no matter what plan no matter what you decide to do about the relationship

Get the clarity you need to know if your relationship is workable, when it is NOT, and create your exit plan roadmap - in 30 days!

You have more internal peace instantly when you apply the principles taught in the program
You’ll be able to clearly see the patterns and behaviors (and label them)
You’ll have a new awareness of the cycle and your part in it
You feel your energy returning and have greater mental clarity
You’ll stop with the incessant obsessing over your partner
You’ll feel better overall by filling your own cup and taking better care of yourself
You’ll feel more in control of your emotions, and experience less reactivity

A Recap of the program outline:

Is He Really That Bad? course: How to define abuse patterns and determine if you are experiencing abuse or narcissistic abuse/personality disordered spouse and if change is possible
Rewire yourself for calm, be in your body with the guided Theta Mind Body Relaxation Meditation
Step Back from Your Participation in the Patterns, see where you play a role in feeding the dynamic and learn your own dysfunctional and unhealthy behaviours within the relationship that leave you feeling trapped
Define and own your boundaries and set them with conviction and confidence
Get out of confusion and fear and into clarity and action mode
Define Your Relationship Needs and Own Your Ultimatums and dealbreakers
Plan your exit strategy (even if you aren’t ready to leave) this is essential to plan ahead with to avoid the biggest mistakes when leaving an abusive relationship
Bi-weekly live implementation calls for 16 weeks
Community access exclusive for members of the program – get your questions answered, interact with other women in the program and get feedback from Leanne

Enroll for $1,997

Total Program Value is over $10,000

BEGIN YOUR TRANSFORMATION!

How this program rapidly and permanently changes women's lives in a way that years of therapy could not

Women Answer:

"How did the the Strong Enough To Leave program (formerly End The Cycle) program most help you?"

(Women’s names are omitted to protect confidentiality)

"It helped me recognize the cycle and learn not to emotionally react. Having online support for insight into personal situations so I could relate it to the material".

"Receiving validation, support, and the tools that I need to move forward in whichever way I decide".

"I familiarized myself with gaslighting stone walling etc . Gaining clarity. And having a supportive group behind me".

"I'm in the program and learning so much I wish I knew prior to leaving my ex!" K.R

"I have learned self care/self love/boundaries how to use and practice them. In setting myself routines, and learning about abuse cycles. Knowledge is power and I have learned so much through Leanne's program."

"It has helped me to be empowered and know that I am not alone, crazy, or asking for much, learn ways to communicate effectively to not allow myself to self sacrifice all the time and keep boundaries in place, and helped me connect with other women in similar situations and find ways to break the cycle".

How Was ETC More Beneficial Than Going to Therapy?

"The journaling prompts and having some type of “homework” was very helpful. It gave me things to take action on instead of just talking about things."

"Leanne's program made me realize my codependency and my "role" with some of my past relationships with men. She dives deep in to narcissism and personality traits that go along with it in a way I've not heard before!"

"This program offered specific information that helped me understand not only the spectrum of narcissistic behavior but also my own role in the relationship. Leanne also hammered home the importance of self-care as a means to place the focus on myself as well as highlight how self-care practices are essential to staying well physically and emotionally."

"The accountability and an outlined directives for self soothing and regulating emotions have been most helpful once aware of codependency patterns."

"This program is way more actionable and future-focused than therapy."

What Women Like You Are Saying About The Program:

"Before stumbling across awakening women on Instagram, I was confused, being manipulated and emotionally abused, daily. I didn't even know what gaslighting was. I was often crying, not wanting to proceed with my day, tangled up with my partner. Everyday now, [after working with Leanne and joining the program], I empower myself more and feel better. I am in a healthy routine and bettering myself now, I'm learning about energy and I am motivated to protect mine. My focus used to be on my partner and everything he was doing. Now my focus is on me and my kids. I've changed the way I react to him and slowly but surely disconnecting myself from the toxicity” C.C

“If you get a chance to work with Leanne she will help you transform your behavior and shift your energy towards what serves you. I’m so grateful she has taught me to love myself just the way I am and to go deep and face my emotions head on. Leanne taught me to set boundaries and take care of me. Thank you for lifting me up”. J.P

"This program has radically shifted my reality. It has transformed my beliefs that I was powerless, unworthy, unseen and unheard. For so long I felt stuck and helpless. Leanne's program is a bright beacon of light shining light on the TRUTH. The truth is I am powerful, worthy, seen and heard! I matter! I am deserving of a healthy relationship and I no longer accept mistreatment in place of love. Thanks Leanne!" A.T

"Before I found Leanne, I had spent a year reading and watching everything I could get my hands on about narcissistic abuse. I went from simply being educated about it to being supported and coached in such a caring and understanding way that gave me the strength and validation to leave. If I wanted to stay, she would have certainly helped me with that too. That’s what is different with Leanne. She supports you with whatever you decide to do."

"Before ETC I was still trying to figure out both me and my husband. ETC helped me to focus solely on me and what I need and want in a relationship. I was able to let go of some things that were not helping me and had actually been hurting me. I gained a lot of confidence about myself and my own abilities. I feel like a capable and empowered woman now. I don’t know exactly what my future looks like but I know I can handle it."

"Before this program I was leaning toward leaving the relationship--and that's where I am now, except I feel much more "prepared" mentally and emotionally. I truly believe the boundary work (which I desperately needed to do) will benefit other relationships in my life -- and perhaps future relationships. I also learned some things about myself, including how the way I've shown up/reacted to my current relationship is often the way I'm showing up/reacting to other things in my life. This was a powerful realization for me--and was one of several "aha" moments."

"Before joining, I knew my relationship was toxic but my coping was not getting me the change or feeling of stability and inner calm I desperately was seeking from others (friends, doctor, therapist.) Two plus years of personal therapy seemed lacking in the understanding of emotional abuse and how to help myself. An attempt to leave without support was unsuccessful. Leanne's program has given me a clearer understanding on the cycle of abuse, tactics used to keep me in fear and under control in this relationship for years. I am now aware of how my silence, over-functioning, almost nonexistent boundaries and victim mentality contribute to abandonment of myself, codependency, reactive behaviours and avoidance of conflict. Unresolved childhood trauma and buried emotions added to my inner turmoil and inability to self regulate my moods. Learning to detach from negative interactions and conversation has been a huge positive shift in my self healing. The many layers of trauma need my attention for ongoing healing. Increasing selfcare, keeping routine while reinforcing my boundaries and SPEAKING my truth (and improving what and how I say it and positive self talk)is building my self confidence. Although I know I no longer wish to remain in this relationship, I am staying, for now, to work on myself in preparation. I feel prepared with a self care routine for my emotional and physical health; along with an exit strategy. Being aware of old ways of avoidance and fear; how to return to myself and seek support when taking the next steps is crucial for my success and growth. With divine gratitude, S.R."

"My partner and I have been inching toward separating for years, but we have a young daughter and separation would likely mean she and I moving to another town to be near my family. Over the past few months the discussions were getting more serious and there were a number of times where we decided to move forward with separating. My partner would have an overnight change of heart and the pattern would begin again. I was burned out, completely dissociated from myself and at a loss about how to proceed. Now I have taken ownership of my decision to stay in this relationship for now. I have always felt like I wouldn't leave without knowing I had tried everything, but couldn't accept that the thing I needed to try was prioritizing myself and my needs. I understand that, while I was not the cause of it, my codependency and lack of boundaries were enabling his emotionally abusive behaviour. Working on myself has given me clarity on what my boundaries are and I find myself setting them more consistently every day. I'm learning to trust myself more and worry about the future less."

"I was lost in the fog because I had not been true to myself due to strong codependent patterns. I learned that I need to practice self care. I understood that setting boundaries and enforcing them is a skill - it needs to be practiced consistently. And most importantly, I learned to take radical self responsibility and own my power. I am not a victim."

Still not sure if End The Cycle will work for you?

Have questions?

Frequently asked questions

This program has helped hundreds of women all over the world!

I'm already in counselling, will this still help me?

I have a background as a Registered Counsellor specializing in counselling psychology. While not a substitute for therapy, ETC will provide you with in-depth transformation, community support, responsive answers to your questions as they arise, and powerful tools and insights you won’t get in regular therapy. You can take this program along with therapy. It’s your choice.

What kind of training do you have to teach this program?

While not a substitute for therapy, this program contains within it everything you need to know about the dynamics of narcissistic abuse, and how to break free. I have a background in Counselling Psychology, and 11 years of experience counselling and coaching women. Over the past 6 years, I have specialized in helping women break free from narcissistic marriages, and this program is the process I have lead groups of women through to help them find freedom

Do you still offer 1:1 counselling?

I work with women 1:1, but I don’t practice as a registered counsellor any longer. My methods are a blend of psychology, intuition, and offer a holistic approach. You can learn more about working with privately on my website

Do You Have a License Number so I can try to get insurance coverage?

I am no longer practicing as a registered counsellor (by choice). My courses and services are not covered by insurance.

Can I cancel my registration if I change my mind?

There are no cancellations or refunds.

I'm not in the relationship anymore, or am separated and considering going back to my ex-partner, will this course still help me?

The End The Cycle process is designed for women who are still in the relationship, or who are separated but are still feeling entangled with their ex, and are seriously considering reconciliation. Maybe your partner has made some changes, and you want to know if it’s going to stick this time. The process you are guided through will give you clarity and step by step guidance to know if your relationship can, or should be saved before you make the decision. Before you decide to engage back in the relationship, I urge you to take ETC first.

If I'm already leaning toward leaving the relationship will this still help me?

Many women leave a relationship like this and return, statistics say 7 times, before leaving for good. It is also common to get sucked back in with manipulation and promises each time you try to leave. Being in the community as you formulate clarity, inner strength, and a plan for your exit, as well as preparing yourself emotionally and logistically, will increase the odds that when you do leave, it will be for good. Based on my work of over 6 years with women in this program, having support as you leave and after you exit is invaluable. Leaving and staying no contact is up there with one of the hardest things you will have to do.

I'm worried I won't have time to focus on the program, I'm so busy and overwhelmed with everything! How much time should I expect to spend on this?

You get out of anything that you put into it. I recommend dedicating a set time to do your personal growth and study over the long-term. Part of change is creating time to do this work. Also, keep in mind, members report this process and the tools within it have done more for them in 30 days than years spent in therapy getting nowhere.

Can I pay in CAD if I'm in Canada?

We do not make currency adjustments. Adjusting the currency for every person that requests it would be extremely time consuming, and an admin nightmare. USD is a standard and universal currency for global businesses, and 90% of our business expenses, including software and tools to house our online programs, are paid for in US dollars

I'm overwhelmed with my relationship and the stress I'm under, can I REALLY do this program?

You will get out of overwhelm by taking very specific and focused ACTIONS. Right – action is the cure to overwhelm.

Why Only 30 Days of Access?

This is intended to be a bootcamp intensive. Some women purchase programs and never start or finish them when I’ve given longer access, so to help minimize this, you are able to enrol at a lower price point (my typical group coaching programs start at $997). You will have the option to continue on month- to- month inside the program at a lower monthly subscription rate, if you’d like to continue to have program access, unlock new modules and stay in in the support community.

Will I have to Leave My Relationship in 30 Days?

No, you get to choose the timeline in which to apply the principles and strategies, but the goal is you will have clarity in 30 days so that you can start to think in that direction with confidence, and start taking some actions toward your chosen separation date. Some women also choose to do a temporary in-house separation, which I outline how to do in this type of scenario

Your Guide

Who Am I?

For the past 11 years I have practiced as a professional counsellor and coach. I have an educational background in fitness training, Reiki Levels 1 & 2, Counselling Psychology and Mindfulness based coaching. I have specialized in the areas of women’s holistic healing, and more recently, over the past 6 years have specialized in helping women break free from toxic and narcissistic relationships.