End The Cycle
Self Study Course

A Transformational Self Paced Program for Women Who Want to Gain Clarity, Confidence, and a Plan To Decide If Their Relationship Can (Or Should) Be Saved

Without Wasting Time Waiting For Him To Change And Getting Nowhere In Therapy

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This Course Is For You Frequently Experience The Following:

  • Your partner turns everything you try to talk about around on to you (which leaves you questioning if your concerns are valid)
  • Your partner tells you you're crazy, irrational, always complaining, or too sensitive all the time when you share with him how he's hurting you
  • You argue about the same issues over and over again, and nothing changes
  • You feel like you're always trying to put into words and explain perfectly how you feel, but your partner is never actually listening to you, so you go around and around in circles until you collapse from emotional exhaustion
  • You continually feel invalidated, rejected, and like your partner doesn't care about you or how you feel, it feels like he has no concern or empathy for how you're hurting (due to his behavior)
  • You get the feeling that all the problems in the relationship are your fault because every issue you raise somehow gets turned around onto you
  • Your partner constantly minimizes and makes excuses for his bad behavior (which is always somehow your fault)
  • You often find yourself swinging from feeling you want to leave because the behavior is so intolerable, to feeling hope when he’s “being nice” and promising to change, to wondering if you've tried hard enough to questioning if he really is a narcissist, back to self blame, back into the cycle
  • You often feel confused after interactions with your partner, or by his strange and odd behaviors that leave you questioning yourself, and wondering if you really are going crazy
  • When you raise an issues they resond with "you did the same thing when"...to divert the topic away from the issue you want to discuss

Here's What You'll Be Doing Inside End the Cycle:

Phase 1: Your 30 Day Clarity Plan Bootcamp

  • Learn the psychological abuse cycle in-depth, the emotional abuse patterns, red flags and behaviors to be aware of, and how to respond differently to shift the dynamic and stop wondering if you're making things bigger than they are
  • Take back your emotional power so you stop reacting in ways that perpetuate the cycle (that he can use against you later) and you can feel good about how you're showing up no matter what he's doing
  • Learn how you're playing into the dynamic, how to stop feeding the cycle, regain your inner peace and stop feeling controlled and powerless in your life
  • Discover new ways to respond to emotional abuse tactics and comments without reacting emotionally and making things worse
  • Unhook yourself from the emotional addiction you have to your partner which is driving you to keep ending up back in the toxic cycle so that you can regain your sense of inner peace and balance

Phase 2: Build Better Boundaries In Your Life and Relationship

  • Using scripts and proactive boundary setting techniques, you'll learn the types of boundaries you can set, how to set them, and how to enforce them
  • Learn how self sacrificing, overhelping, over-functioning, over-giving and enabling behaviors keep the dynamic alive and actually prevent change from happening
  • Feel more confident in your next conflict or difficult situation by knowing your boundaries in advance, and have a plan to keep yourself safe and sane

Phase 3: Reclaim Your Power And Rebuild Your Relationship With Yourself

  • Come out of the fog, awaken to the truth, and lift the veil of confusion so you can see everything from a new level of clarity
  • Prioritize your needs and desires, and stop abandoning yourself. Rebuild your sacred relationship to yourself in order to shift the relationship you have with others
  • Learn how to stop giving your power away, get out of feeling like a victim and take full ownership of your own inner work
  • Set your new life goals and make your health and building your life a top priority
  • Reclaim your energy and boost your self worth through holistic healing and wellness lifestyle principles that will radically change every area of you life

Phase 4: Make Your 'No Matter What' Plan + Begin Creating Your Exit Strategy

  • Planning to leave can take months of information gathering and research, knowing what to take care of NOW will help you formulate a plan that puts you in the drivers seat of how things will look as you exit the relationship
  • Know what things you need to do right now, vs right before you leave or separate - step by step as well as how to be prepare and protect yourself and stay safe as you plan your exit before announcing your desire to separate
  • Get support as you sort out the overwhelming tasks of considering leaving your home, or if you're the one staying how to make this transition as smooth as possible for you and your kids
  • Leaving right away isn't always realistic, learn the various ways you can move toward the goal in ways that keep your nervous system in mind, taking steps as you feel able, as well as take care of yourself and your children as you are planning and preparing

Phase 5: Thriving After You Leave + Going No/Low Contact (Even if You Have Kids Together)

  • Learn what the aftershock looks and feels like so you can be prepared for what comes during the first weeks after exiting
  • Learn how to handle the rollercoaster of emotions that await on the other side, and how to deal with them in the most empowered way (while keeping your sanity and boundaries in tact)
  • How to become your own soul mate so a future partner adds to your life, rather than needing a partner to be happy
  • Identify and transform the traits that make you a match for a narcissistic or toxic partner so you can avoid ending up in another similar relationship
  • Learn self soothing tools and practices for when you're triggered or experiencing intense emotions
  • Things you MUST make sure you do/do not do when it comes to legal agreements and court proceedings
  • Be armed and prepared for the battle on the other side, including post-separation abuse, what to expect with children involved, how to know what's ahead when dealing with the court system and legal aspects of what you are facing after you leave

Maybe right about now, you're feeling terrified that by joining the program you'll have to make a quick decision to leave your partner, and you don't feel ready to leave

The advice to ‘just leave’ isn’t always wise guidance. Some women need a plan for getting to a place where they can leave and feel more prepared to take that final step.

This program is not about forcing you to make a hasty decision about whether to stay or go. And, I know you may still have doubts that leaving is the right choice. It makes sense you’d give this careful thought, and this is why the program is a step-by-step process specifically for women who are still unsure if they should leave.

ETCE is about guiding you to make your own decisions by doing the inner work necessary to change your unhealthy patterns… because in the end, nobody knows better about what to do about your life and relationship than you do. 

How it Works

Once you register you’ll have instant access to the program education area and receive an invite to join our community. You can dive it right away and get started! 

You begin by taking the 30 Day Relationship Clarity Bootcamp, and once you do this you will have the opportunity to deepen your growth, healing, and transformation over the additional modules in the program.

This reset is part relationship focused, but the basis is focus on you, your wellness, health and life goals as you put your partner on a ‘shelf’ to work on yourself

The curriculum is self paced, so you can take the modules at your own pace.

Once you register you’ll receive an email from me with your next steps, instructions for how to get started, and strategies for how to set yourself up for success.

My promise: If the only thing you do right now is dive in and commit to doing the work in this program, you will not recognize yourself by the end of the 30-Day Clarity Bootcamp alone. In 90 days, your life will be transformed. Whether you stay or leave, you will not be the same. This program radically and permanently changes women’s lives in ways years of therapy never could!

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“I came across this course at the exact moment I needed to, and it has been beyond valuable. In all honesty there were moments where I felt like I wasn’t make any progress, and ones where I doubted that I ever would. But just doing the work- reading and listening and actually writing out my reflections really did result in clarity. Suddenly my needs and the beginnings of some real boundaries were right in front of me, in my own handwriting! I feel more in tune with myself than I think I ever have, and I am so grateful for you Leanne, and this incredible course. Thank you so, so much.” J.P

Choose Your Payment Option And Get Instant Acccess!


1 Installment

$1,497 USD

(1 Installment of $1,497)

 
  • 30 Day “Stay Or Go?” Clarity Bootcamp
  • 6 months access to the End The Cycle Step by Step Method 
  • Coaching call recordings archive 
  • BONUS bundle  
ENROLL WITH 1 PAYMENT


3 INSTALLMENT PLAN

$565 USD

(3 installments of $565)

 
  • 30 Day “Stay Or Go?” Clarity Bootcamp
  • 6 months access to the End The Cycle Step by Step Method 
  • Coaching call recordings archive
  • BONUS Bundle
ENROLL WITH 3 PAYMENTS

The ETCE program rapidly and permanently changes women's lives in a way that years of therapy could not

Women Answer:

"How did the program most help you?"

(Identity is omitted to protect confidentiality)
"ETC helped me recognize the cycle and learn not to emotionally react. Having online support for insight into personal situations so I could relate it to the material".
"Receiving validation, support, and the tools that I need to move forward in whichever way I decide".
"I familiarized myself with gaslighting stone walling etc . Gaining clarity. And having a supportive group behind me".
"I'm in the ETC program and learning so much I wish I knew prior to leaving my ex!" K.R
"I have learned self care/self love/boundaries how to use and practice them. In setting myself routines, and learning about abuse cycles. Knowledge is power and I have learned so much through Leanne's ETC program."
"ETC has helped me to be empowered and know that I am not alone, crazy, or asking for much, learn ways to communicate effectively to not allow myself to self sacrifice all the time and keep boundaries in place, and helped me connect with other women in similar situations and find ways to break the cycle".
Benefits of ETC

How is ETC More Beneficial Than Going to Therapy?

"The journaling prompts and having some type of “homework” was very helpful. It gave me things to take action on instead of just talking about things."
"ETC made me realize my codependency and my "role" with some of my past relationships with men. ETC dives deep in to narcissism and personality traits that go along with it. ETC reminds me to let go of the "victim mentality"; providing me with an awareness and accountability for myself. I matter."
"ETC offered specific information that helped me understand not only the spectrum of narcissistic behavior but also my own role in the relationship. ETC also hammered home the importance of self-care as a means to place the focus on myself as well as highlight how self-care practices are essential to staying well physically and emotionally."
"The accountability and an outlined directives for self soothing and regulating emotions have been most helpful once aware of codependency patterns."
"ETC is way more actionable and future-focused than therapy."

What Women Like You Are Saying About The Program:

"Before stumbling across awakening women on Instagram, I was confused, being manipulated and emotionally abused, daily. I didn't even know what gaslighting was. I was often crying, not wanting to proceed with my day, tangled up with my partner. Everyday now, [after working with Leanne and the ETC program], I empower myself more and feel better. I am in a healthy routine and bettering myself now, I'm learning about energy and I am motivated to protect mine. My focus used to be on my partner and everything he was doing. Now my focus is on me and my kids. I've changed the way I react to him and slowly but surely disconnecting myself from the toxicity” C.C
“If you get a chance to work with Leanne she will help you transform your behavior and shift your energy towards what serves you. I’m so grateful she has taught me to love myself just the way I am and to go deep and face my emotions head on. Leanne taught me to set boundaries and take care of me. Thank you for lifting me up”. J.P
"ETC has radically shifted my reality. ETC has transformed my beliefs that I was powerless, unworthy, unseen and unheard. For so long I felt stuck and helpless. ETC is a bright beacon of light shining light on the TRUTH. The truth is I am powerful, worthy, seen and heard! I matter! I am deserving of a healthy relationship and I no longer accept mistreatment in place of love. Thanks Leanne!" A.T
"Before I found Leanne, I had spent a year reading and watching everything I could get my hands on about narcissistic abuse. I went from simply being educated about it to being supported and coached in such a caring and understanding way that gave me the strength and validation to leave. If I wanted to stay, she would have certainly helped me with that too. That’s what is different with Leanne. She supports you with whatever you decide to do."
"Before ETC I was still trying to figure out both me and my husband. ETC helped me to focus solely on me and what I need and want in a relationship. I was able to let go of some things that were not helping me and had actually been hurting me. I gained a lot of confidence about myself and my own abilities. I feel like a capable and empowered woman now. I don’t know exactly what my future looks like but I know I can handle it."
"Before ETC, I was leaning toward leaving the relationship--and that's where I am now, except I feel much more "prepared" mentally and emotionally. I truly believe the boundary work (which I desperately needed to do) will benefit other relationships in my life -- and perhaps future relationships. I also learned some things about myself, including how the way I've shown up/reacted to my current relationship is often the way I'm showing up/reacting to other things in my life. This was a powerful realization for me--and was one of several "aha" moments."
"Before joining ETC, I knew my relationship was toxic but my coping was not getting me the change or feeling of stability and inner calm I desperately was seeking from others (friends, doctor, therapist.) Two plus years of personal therapy seemed lacking in the understanding of emotional abuse and how to help myself. An attempt to leave without support was unsuccessful. ETC has given me a clearer understanding on the cycle of abuse, tactics used to keep me in fear and under control in this relationship for years. I am now aware of how my silence, over-functioning, almost nonexistent boundaries and victim mentality contribute to abandonment of myself, codependency, reactive behaviours and avoidance of conflict. Unresolved childhood trauma and buried emotions added to my inner turmoil and inability to self regulate my moods. Learning to detach from negative interactions and conversation has been a huge positive shift in my self healing. The many layers of trauma need my attention for ongoing healing. Increasing selfcare, keeping routine while reinforcing my boundaries and SPEAKING my truth (and improving what and how I say it and positive self talk)is building my self confidence. Although I know I no longer wish to remain in this relationship, I am staying, for now, to work on myself in preparation. I feel prepared with a self care routine for my emotional and physical health; along with an exit strategy. Being aware of old ways of avoidance and fear; how to return to myself and seek support when taking the next steps is crucial for my success and growth. With divine gratitude, S.R."
"My partner and I have been inching toward separating for years, but we have a young daughter and separation would likely mean she and I moving to another town to be near my family. Over the past few months the discussions were getting more serious and there were a number of times where we decided to move forward with separating. My partner would have an overnight change of heart and the pattern would begin again. I was burned out, completely dissociated from myself and at a loss about how to proceed. Now I have taken ownership of my decision to stay in this relationship for now. I have always felt like I wouldn't leave without knowing I had tried everything, but couldn't accept that the thing I needed to try was prioritizing myself and my needs. I understand that, while I was not the cause of it, my codependency and lack of boundaries were enabling his emotionally abusive behaviour. Working on myself has given me clarity on what my boundaries are and I find myself setting them more consistently every day. I'm learning to trust myself more and worry about the future less."
"I was lost in the fog because I had not been true to myself due to strong codependent patterns. I learned that I need to practice self care. I understood that setting boundaries and enforcing them is a skill - it needs to be practiced consistently. And most importantly, I learned to take radical self responsibility and own my power. I am not a victim."
ENROLL IN END THE CYCLE
Have questions?

Frequently asked questions

This program has helped hundreds of women all over the world! 

While not a substitute for therapy, ETC will provide you with in-depth transformation, community support, responsive answers to your questions as they arise, and powerful tools and insights you won’t get in regular therapy. You can take this program along with therapy. It’s your choice.
I have offered a payment plan to make this easier, and also invite you to see whether your concerns are coming from fear, lack, and victim mentality. You are operating from present circumstances, not from where you want to be. While I would not advocate purchasing ETC if you can’t feed your family or pay your mortgage, I challenge you to consider that you may have fixed beliefs about money and spending on yourself. You receive a whole lot more from this program than you will with just one-hour counselling sessions each week. Something to keep in mind.

There are no cancellations or refunds.

Yes, the installment plan option is offered for your convenience to make it accessible for those who aren’t able to pay for the program in full. You are required to make all of your payments. Payments are debited every 30 days with the payment method you have on file. 

ETCE is designed for women who are still in the relationship, or who are separated but are still feeling entangled with their ex, and are seriously considering reconciliation. Maybe your partner has made some changes, and you want to know if it’s going to stick this time. ETCE will give you clarity and a step by step process to know if your relationship can, or should be saved before you make the decision. Before you decide to engage back in the relationship, I urge you to take ETC first.

Many women leave a relationship like this and return, statistics say 7 times, before leaving for good. It is also common to get sucked back in with manipulation and promises each time you try to leave. Being in ETCE as you formulate clarity, inner strength, and a plan for your exit, as well as preparing yourself emotionally and logistically, will increase the odds that when you do leave, it will be for good. Based on my work with hundreds of women in this program, having support as you leave and after you exit is invaluable. Leaving and staying no contact is the hardest thing you will have to do. 

You get out of anything that you put into it. Allocate about 5 hours per week for watching/listening to the material, study and notes/journalling, or any homework you have to do. Also, keep in mind, clients report ETCE did more for them in 30 days than months spent in therapy getting nowhere. If you focus and stay in the work you will experience profound transformation.

We do not make currency adjustments. Adjusting the currency for every person that requests it would be extremely time consuming, and an admin nightmare. USD is a standard and universal currency for global businesses, and 90% of our business expenses, including software and tools to house our online programs, are paid for in US dollars

 ETC is designed to get you out of overwhelm by taking very specific and focused ACTIONS. Right – action is the cure to overwhelm.

The self study does not include any support. 

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