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Discover The Root Cause of Your Ongoing Relationship Conflict and Emotional Disconnection
A 30 day intensive for ambitious women leaders navigating emotionally invalidating, disconnected, high-conflict relationships who want to know how to shift their part in the dynamic and get clarity about whether to stay or leave thier relationship
“Even after years of therapy, this really gets to the root.” – Sharon
Before stumbling across awakening women on Instagram, I was confused, being manipulated and didn’t even know what gaslighting was. I was often crying, not wanting to proceed with my day, tangled up with my partner. Everyday now, [after working with Leanne], I have the tools to empower myself more and feel better. I am in a healthy routine and bettering myself now, I’m learning how to protect my energy. My focus used to be on my partner and everything he was doing. Now my focus is on me and my kids. I’ve changed the way I react to him and slowly but surely disconnecting myself from the toxicity” C.C
Leanne describes everything as if she’s taking your experiences out of your mind and translating them into words and tools to help you discover what is happening and more importantly what to do about it all!I have seen two therapists in person and I have left every time thinking, that was a waste of money.I was shocked when I discovered how interactive Leanne was and that her program is for real.. She.gets.it. She’s been through so much, her personal experience coupled with her professional experience is exactly what I needed to wake up, stay awake and empower myself!!” P.W
Since joining this program…
“I couldn’t have said this 30 days ago… but I’m excited about my future.”
“I finally feel sane again, knowing my emotions and expectations are normal.”
“This work gave me the clarity, strength, and language I didn’t even know I was missing.”
“I used to second-guess everything. Now I have a non-negotiables list and I’m finally holding my boundaries.”
“I’m a therapist and even I couldn’t see the control and toxicity in my own marriage until this program.”
“This program gave me permission to prioritize me for the first time in decades.”
“It’s the first thing that’s made sense after trying everything else.”
“Leanne nailed it. I finally stopped asking ‘what’s wrong with me?’ and started asking ‘what’s right for me?’”
Why this program works for smart, ambitious women – and will work for you too!
“This wasn’t anything. like therapy. It was direct, clear, and exactly what I needed when I was drowning.”
“Leanne’s the only one who gets the nuances of what causes unhealthy conflict cycles for high-functioning women.”
“Leanne made me feel like she was talking directly to my life.”
“I’ve read the books, I’ve done the therapy. This is what made the difference.”
“I’m a smart woman. I’ve built a life, and a career. But I couldn’t get free until this program handed me the truth and the tools”
"YOU CAN CHANGE THE DYNAMIC QUICKLY THROUGH EMOTIONAL & ENERGETIC SHIFTS- WITHOUT NEEDING HIM TO DO ANYTHING DIFFERENT (AT FIRST)"
~Leanne Marie
Key Shifts You'll Have Inside:
Discover the subtle (hidden and secret) emotional manipulation and control tactics emotionally toxic men use: Pinpoint what is really going on at the root of your relationship, learn how to track it over 30 days, understand the highs and lows so that you can get clear on what’s your side of the street, and what is his, and stop blaming yourself and make a 30 day Self Reclamation Plan to get clarity on what you want in life, and your relationship.
Awaken to your own patterns that are at play in your dynamic: One key to power is to aknowledge that you created your role in this dynamic, and you are 100% responsible for your end of healing. A core characteristic of unhealthy relationship dynamics is that there is an ongoing pattern that leaves you feeling like no matter what you’ve tried, nothing really changes in a meaningful way with your partner. Understanding whether he’s toxic for your nervous system, or just not the right partner for you, is key to getting the clarity and confidence on your next steps – taking ownership for your role in the cocreation of the dynamic.
Learn the cycle of manipulation and control within a toxic or narcissistic dynamic: Once you get clear whether you are in a manipulative and controlling relationship, you can stop wasting mental energy on figuring out him, and focus on YOU. Why have you tolerated this? Hidden manipulation happens so subtly you can miss it. Once you understand the cycle, you won’t see yourself or the relationship in the same way ever again.
The 30 Day Reset: The 30 day plan I’ve been teaching women since 2019 will help you discern what needs to change, what your role in the 30 day reset is, what you should look for within him to know whether you can create a new dynamic, or if its time to plan your exit, and walk away
Compared to weekly couples therapy at $150 + per hour, the 30 Day End The Cycle Intensive saves you thousands while giving you strategic planning, a simple process to follow, and relationship-shifting tools, to get clarity about your future. Once you apply what I teach in this course, you will no longer be wasting energy on methods that don't lead to change.
Get INSTANT access to everything you need to discover the root of your relationship frustration, stress and confusion, so that you can start yoru path to healing and transformation
"You said not to do therapy, and I wish I had listened to you! It was a waste of time (and thousands of dollars later), and brought out more of the worst in my partner, his issues weren't addressed, and I became the focus of the sessions. Your program was 100 times more effective than the months of therapy we did that lead us nowhere, I am truly grateful".
If you’re questioning whether you should invest in this intensive or not…
I get it. You might be thinking you could just keep trying to figure it out on your own, wait it out longer or keep going to therapy.
But let’s put it in perspective:
How much have you already spent on therapy sessions, books, courses, or “trying harder” while still finding yourself in the same situation feeling the exact same way?
How many years have you lost to overthinking, second-guessing, and staying stuck in a relationship that drains your energy and confidence?
How much income has been lost from not being able to focus at work, or show up in your business with a clear head?
What’s the real cost of another year of exhaustion, confusion, and emotional self-abandonment?
Here’s the truth: $222 is a fraction of what staying stuck will cost you.
This intensive doesn’t just give you information, it gives you a clear step-by-step process to break the patterns you’ve been living once and for all, with tools, strategies, and guidance you’ll use for the rest of your life.
The women who join me in my coaching and support spaces don’t see this as an expense. They see it as the best investment they’ll ever make, because it saves them time, energy, health, and years of repeating painful patterns.
The real question isn’t, “Can I afford this?”
The real question is, “What’s the cost if I don’t figure this out?
This isn't a course about how to fix your relationship; it's a 30-day transformation process that meets you exactly where you're at, that you will feel within days of implementing
Join the movement!
Access The Intensive That Changes Everything for $222 ($979 Value)
Self Study
End The Cycle Intensive-
End the Cycle Reset ($497 value)
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The Relationship clarity bootcamp ($97 value)
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Defining Your Nonnegotiable Needs ($49 value)
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Self Assessment PDF Printables ($22)
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The Mind-Body-Relationship Connection class ($47 value)
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Should I Stay or Go? Class ($47 value)
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Daily Mind-Body Theta Meditation ($22)
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1 Week Inside the Self Sourced Collective in Telegram ($138 value)
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Transform Your Pain Into Power
and Finally Get Clarity On Whether Your Relationship Can (or Should) Be Saved
This program is taught by a former counsellor with a background in Counselling Psychology with over 13 years of experience guiding women into their most empowered selves
RCM is a step by step program and method for women experiencing emotional abuse with a partner who exhibits narcissistic behaviors and traits.
If you’ve already spent years researching narcissism at length, or wonder if he’s just an avoidant or emotionally immature man, and perhaps find your partner doesn’t fit all of the mainstream criteria and behaviors of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) this can leave you questioning.
And if your partner shows both positive and negative behaviors, and doesn’t fit the DSM criteria for NPD, you’re unsure if you’re just making this up or overthinking things.
You swing back and forth between being ready to leave and wondering if maybe there is hope for change to occur when he suddenly changes his behavior.
Or, maybe you’re separated and hoping for a reunion once he’s worked on himself
If you’re wondering if change is possible, or know that it isn’t and want a pathway out of the relationship, read on..
Nothing changes until YOU change your emotional-energetic set point
Other programs, therapists, and experts tell you that leaving a relationship and going “no contact” is the only option, or they only offer guidance on healing after you’ve left. And, many think leaving is the magic fix, and life will fall into place.
For most women, these are not effective strategies.
RCM is specifically created for successful, high-achieving women who are experiencing problematic and stressful relationship cycles, who aren’t sure if they should give the relationship more time, or if leaving is the only way toward a whole and healed life.
RCM also supports you the entire way through the first months after leaving – you can plug in and implement all of my processes wherever you may find yourself right now.
Most women who come in at first believe the benefits of staying outweigh the cost of leaving, and even fear the impact on the children if they leave.
And, through the process, the highest-level choice becomes clear.
This is a no-judgment zone! My goal is to get you to a clear decision that is aligned with your highest level of evolution, and to guide you in walking away from misaligned relationships from true power (without guilt).
The Path to self-reclamation and Changing your part
in the dance
Going to friends, family, and uninformed therapists who minimize what you’re going through only leads to further traumatization.
You need a proven strategy and plan to follow to actually move toward real change – from the inside out
A holistic path that integrates your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical dimensions, that merges psychology, counselling, coaching, and solution focused mentorship.
RCM is The Program for you If...
- Your partner turns everything your address with him around on you (which leaves you questioning if your concerns are valid)
- Your partner regularly tells you you're crazy, irrational, always complaining, or too sensitive when you share with him how he's hurting you
- You constantly repeat yourself over and over again, and when you think he finally gets it this time, nothing actually changes long-term
- You feel like you're always talking and talking, trying to articulate and explain perfectly how you feel, but your partner is never actually listening to you
- You continually feel invalidated, rejected, dismissed and like your partner doesn't care about you or how you feel; he seems to have no concern, care or empathy for your experiences and emotions
- You get the feeling that all the problems in the relationship are your fault because every issue you raise somehow gets turned around onto you
- Your partner constantly minimizes and makes excuses for his bad behavior (which is always somehow your fault)
- You often find yourself swinging from feeling you want to leave because the behavior is so intolerable, to feeling hope when he’s “being nice” and promising to change, to wondering if you've tried hard enough to questioning if he really is a narcissist, back to self blame, back into the cycle
- You often feel confused after interactions with your partner, or by his strange and odd behaviors that leave you questioning yourself, and wondering if you really are going crazy
Here's What You'll Be Doing Inside
PHASE 1: The Relationship Reset
Diagnosing and Identifying the Root of the Conflict in Your Relationship
Get rid of any doubts lingering about what you’re experiencing and stop blaming yourself for the relationship issues. This is where all the weight you’ve been carrying disappears, and clarity comes from understanding what is really going on (and if it is more than just ‘normal relationship fights’)
- Learn specific patterns of behavior to be aware of, and how to respond differently to shift the dynamic
- Develop emotional self-mastery so you stop reacting in ways that leak your personal power and energy
- Learn how you're participating in the dynamic, how to regain your inner peace, and redirect your focus toward creating real changes
- Discover how to use boundaries in proactive ways in preparation for problematic situations to set yourself up for success
- Unhook yourself from the emotionally addictive patterns and develop inner-self mastery over your life
PHASE 2:
Own Your Boundaries, Needs, Dealbreakers and Ultimatums
Learn how to set boundaries in your relationship (even when you’ve tried before and it hasn’t worked) from a place of self love and empowerment
- Embody your boundaries by getting clear on what they are, how to set and enforce them, and ways to respond when they are not respected
- Avoiding the most common misakes of setting boundaries (with people who don't respect them)
- Handling difficult situations using boundaries
- The types of boundaries and 8 areas you can set them (and how to word them so you don't feel guilty)
- Boundaries and unhealthy helping in relationships (and the final test to see if he will grow with you)
Phase 3:
Paradigm Shifting | How to Change the Mental - Emotional Patterns That Keep You Stuck
Learn the most important areas to shift within yourself to feel more powerful and in charge of your emotions and life, including breaking codependent patterns
- Discover Your Emotional Triggers, How to Transform Them (And Stop Reacting) so that you can develop the confidence to know what is yours to heal, and what is problematic behaviour in the relationship
- Create your life vision based on your values, non-negotiable needs, and new standards so that you can start changing your life now (instead of waiting for him to change)
- Break emotionally addictive patterns within yourself so you can learn how to emotionally detach, and step into the Self Sourced identity
- Shift your emotional state by learning how to move through emotions powerfully (without needing to vent, or have your therapist on speed dial)
- Tap into your feminine energy, learn how to become more embodied, calm, and grounded, so that you stop giving your power away to his behaviour and become emotionally sovereign
phase 4:
Clarity to Freedom | Getting Clear on Whether or Not This Relationship is Aligned with the Woman You Are Becoming
In this module:
- Discover whether your partner can/will change and what he’d actually need to do (or if you have passed the point of no return)
- Learn how to deal with his sudden improvements, and know if they are genuine (or temporary)
- Empower yourself by working toward your exit plan, just in case
- Shift the mindset and belief patterns that keep you in the same place using my Clarity to Freedom process
- What to do right away to get control over your money before you tell him you want a divorce
- Steps to doing an in-house separation if leaving right away isn’t an option or you need more time to sort things out
- The Strong Enough process to exit planning from power (not panic)
phase 5:
Continuing Your Transformation Journey | Navigating the Early Phase of Separation
This phase is all about focusing on the work that you’ve done in the program, and most importantly, integrating it into your life so you can turn it into tangible solution-focused action and change. You will be setting your goals and plans and ensure you don’t fall back into old patterns. You’ll also have access to everything you need to plan your separation and to navigate the other side should you decide to leave.
In this module:
- Navigating the Physical, Emotional, Parental and Financial Aspects of Life After Leaving
- Navigating the Early Days of Separation: Taking Care of Yourself Emotionally As You Stabilize Your New Life After Leaving
- How to Practice Self-Soothing and Calming Your Nervous System During the Divorce ProcessBecome Your Own Soulmate: Create Your New Foundation for Healing and Rebuilding Your Life in a New Way After Leaving
- Handling Your Biggest Parenting Challenges as The Self Sourced Woman
- Upleveling Your Identity and Breaking Your Patterns of Self Betrayal So That You Are a Match for a Healthy Future Partner
- Dating as a Self Sourced Woman: Preparing to Date with Boundaries and Self Worth
You always have choice.
Here's What You Get Instant Access To When You Invest in the Relationship Clarity Program Today:
- RCM Signature program delivered via videos, audios, workbooks, PDF guides, recorded classes. All self-paced and pre-recorded - you study on your own time ($5,000 value)
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Weekly accountability emails for the initial 30 day Relationship Reset to keep you on track and focused on the work (it's like having a coach guiding you every step of the way)
- Coaching at Your Fingertips: 30+ hours of recorded coaching calls with Leanne (MP3 audio format to listen to on the go) (private coaching with Leanne is $1,000 per session; you pay nothing extra to get access to these powerful sessions!)
- 1 Month Free Inside the Self Sourced Collective ($333 value)
How it Works
Once you register you’ll have instant access to the entire program education area. You can dive it right away and get started!
You will participate in the initial 30 Day Relationship Reset, and once you do this you will have the opportunity to deepen your growth, healing, and transformation over the additional sections in the program.
All content is pre-recorded, which means you can take in the modules at your pace.
Once you register, you’ll receive an email from me with your next steps, instructions for how to get started, and strategies for how to set yourself up for success.
You get INSTANT access to start on your transformation journey.
*Lifetime access with your enrollment.
This program rapidly and permanently changes women's lives in a way that years of therapy could not.
RCM is a specifically designed system, step-by-step method, and process that goes beyond what traditional 1:1 therapy can provide.
Let me clarify: I’m not knocking good quality therapy, there is definitely a place for it, however for the majority of my clients and students, therapy alone was not enough to move them toward meaningful change because the root cause of the relationship issues wasn’t being addressed.
You have a choice. Because life is about choice.
You can invest in getting specific support and guidance to move you forward (in much less time) toward having a real plan and your next steps already figured out
Or
You can keep doing what you’ve been doing and try to figure it out on your own with books, online research, YouTube, free groups, and podcasts… and be in this exact same place in 6 months, 12 months, or sadly even longer
Each choice we make holds a consequence. A cause and an effect. Right now, you can make a decision:
Keep going in the same direction, or plug into a solution that will move your forward much faster than doing it alone
It's time to get real about what staying where you are is costing you.
If you choose to do nothing new, nothing changes.
A Message To Moms
If you’re like the ambitious, high-achieving women I work with, you’re carrying it all: your career/business, your family, your goals, and yet there’s a part of your life holding you back.
You feel torn between choosing yourself and honoring your children, wondering if stepping away from your relationship will make you “selfish,” or if staying is somehow protecting your family.
And while you juggle it all, your body is sending you urgent signals you can’t ignore.
Your adrenals are exhausted. Sleep is elusive. Your hormones are out of balance, or new health issues keep cropping up. Maybe it’s thyroid, adrenal fatigue, period disruptions, or unexplained aches and pains, all stress-induced signs that your body is under pressure it was never meant to endure.
Decisions that once came easily now feel impossible.
It’s not your fault. You’ve been trying to figure it out on your own, or relying on advice that doesn’t account for your unique circumstances. The truth is, without strategic, expert guidance, the weight of this imbalance keeps growing.
Left unchecked, the tension seeps into every part of your life:
Your health deteriorates.
Your mental resilience erodes.
The children in your life feel the strain of the environment.
Your career, your relationships, and your sense of self start to feel like they’re on hold.
If you’ve been spinning in circles, questioning whether to stay or leave, if you feel the pressure of responsibility weighing on you, know this: there’s a path forward.
The solution is you coming back to yourself.
It’s about:
Putting your needs, clarity, and wellbeing back at the center of your life.
Setting rock-solid boundaries and protecting your energy.
Taking steps to safeguard yourself and your children.
Reclaiming the freedom to live life on your terms with excitement, confidence, and peace, rather than fear and exhaustion.
No more walking on eggshells.
You deserve to wake up energized, empowered, and fully present — for yourself, your children, and the life you’ve built.
It’s time to stop surviving and start thriving.
You have been focused on him, now it’s time to focus on YOU.
Need more convincing RCM is for you?
Women Answer:
"How did the program most help you?"
I asked women who took the program
How is the Relationship Clarity Method (formerly End The Cycle) More Beneficial Than Going to Therapy?
What Women Like You Are Saying About The Program:
Frequently asked questions
This program has helped hundreds of women all over the world!
While not a substitute for therapy, RCM will provide you with in-depth transformation, and powerful tools and insights you won’t get in regular therapy. Most women who join this program (including other therapists) tell me this program did more for them than anything else (including years of therapy). That said, if you find therapy helpful to moving things forward, some women take this along with therapy and bring the work they’re doing to their sessions. It’s your choice.
There are no cancellations or refunds.
Yes, the installment plan option is offered for your convenience to make it accessible for those who aren’t able to pay for the program in full. You are required to make all of your payments. Payments are debited every 30 days with the payment method you have on file.
RCM is designed for women who are still in the relationship, or who are separated but are still feeling entangled with their ex, and are seriously considering reconciliation. Maybe your partner has made some changes, and you want to know if it’s going to stick this time. RCM will give you clarity and a step by step process to know if your relationship can, or should be saved before you make the decision. Before you decide to engage back in the relationship, I urge you to take RCM first.
It is common to get sucked back in with manipulation and promises each time you try to leave. Being in RCM as you formulate clarity, inner strength, and a plan for your exit, as well as preparing yourself emotionally and logistically, will increase the odds that when you do leave, it will be for good. Based on my work with hundreds of women in this program, having support as you leave and after you exit is invaluable. Leaving and staying no contact is the hardest thing you will have to do.
You get out of anything that you put into it. Allocate about 5 hours per week for watching/listening to the material, study and notes/journalling, or any homework you have to do. Also, keep in mind, clients report ETCE did more for them in 30 days than months spent in therapy getting nowhere. If you focus and stay in the work you will experience profound transformation.
Devoting even 1 hour per week to the materials will start to change your energy. Set yourself up to complete it in 30 days, then revisit any of the modules as many times as you need to go deeper.
This program is currently offered as a self-study option and doesn’t include support. If you’d like direct consultation, you can book a 1:1 session, depending on current availability.
Many women purchase programs and never finish them. I want you to get in, dive deep and get it done so that you can change your life. You should easlily get through this within 30 days if you stay focused, so 6 months is more than enough time. You can then revisit the course as many times as you need during your access period (which I recommend) because patterns are always right there waiting to be picked back up again, unless we stay awake to the work.
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Results Disclaimer
- We believe in transparency and want to set clear expectations regarding the potential outcomes of this transformation course. While our program provides tools and strategies to support your journey in relationships, parenting, marriage, and general wellness practices, individual results will vary.
- Your success with this program depends on various factors, including your personal effort, commitment, self integrity, background, and unique circumstances. We cannot guarantee specific results such as mental health, emotional balance, or an improved mindset. Past participant experiences do not guarantee future success.
- This program includes self-care practices, movement guidance, legal tips, and health-related insights. However, it is not a substitute for professional therapy, trauma treatment, legal counsel, or medical advice. Any legal or health-related information provided is for general informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.
- Our program is designed to provide guidance and support, but your progress depends on your willingness to apply the concepts and take action. We encourage you to take full responsibility for your personal growth and well-being.
- Seek Professional Advice Before making any decisions related to your mental, emotional, legal, financial or physical health, we strongly recommend consulting with a qualified professional, such as a licensed therapist, attorney, or healthcare provider if you are unsure about applying any advice given to you in this program or in consulting with Leanne Oaten. This program is not a substitute for crisis intervention or for women in physically violent relationships. Please seek help in your local area if you are in danger or experiencing physical violence or fear for your – or your children’s safety
- We make no guarantees, representations, or warranties regarding specific results from participating in this program. By enrolling, you acknowledge that your outcomes are influenced by multiple factors beyond our control.
No Refunds or cancellations. Your purchase includes unlimited course access to the program materials, including updates or new additions. If you select the installment plan you are committing to pay your payments and are responsible for ensuring the card we have on file is active. This course includes lifetime access to the materials. If you choose the installment plan you are responsible for fulfilling all payments even if you do not complete the program.